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Jens Oliver Meiert

Declining 1:1 Meetings Without a Message Is Rude

Published on Apr 15, 2024, filed under (feed). (Share this on Mastodon or Bluesky?)

Just to get this on the record somewhere *:

No matter who you are and what your position, declining 1:1 meetings without a message—or just not showing—is rude.

When you can’t meet, decline with context and/or an apology.

If you cannot do that right away, do so as soon as you can.

If possible, propose a new time to meet.

If appropriate, ask the other to propose a new time to meet.

If the meeting is being canceled for good, say so and explain.

But don’t just decline 1:1s without a comment.

It’s disrespectful—and you’re setting a bad example for your organization’s culture.

* I’ve seen this behavior in several organizations. Not right now though—I’ve just moved to Spain, and am open to a management position in an organization with a friendly (preferably even googley) remote culture.

About Me

Jens Oliver Meiert, on November 9, 2024.

I’m Jens (long: Jens Oliver Meiert), and I’m a web developer, manager, and author. I’ve worked as a technical lead and engineering manager for small and large enterprises, I’m an occasional contributor to web standards (like HTML, CSS, WCAG), and I write and review books for O’Reilly and Frontend Dogma.

I love trying things, not only in web development and engineering management, but also in other areas like philosophy. Here on meiert.com I share some of my experiences and views. (I value you being critical, interpreting charitably, and giving feedback.)