Jens Oliver Meiert

The Dilemma of the Kind Person

Post from July 4, 2016, filed under .

Imagine a fine human being who has a laudable goal. She wants to become a genuinely, cordially, most truly kind person. So she sets on to work on her objective, looks into and explores herself, brainstorms and discusses with others, learns from the experts, reads and studies, carefully monitors her progress, until one day, after years of effort, she is such a phenomenally kind person that she has, unknowingly but matter-of-factly, become the kindest person in the whole world.

Unfortunately, then, with her wonderful development comes a big surprise: Our heroine finds that everyone, every single person, has somehow become rude. With her growing kinder and kinder, everyone else, in comparison, turned ruder and ruder. The dream she fulfilled of growing herself into a beautifully kind person has also manifested as a nightmare.

❧ Yet what has happened, mustn’t there be more to this—after all, our kind friend has surely not learned for naught? (And, most likely, someone must have brought this dilemma up before? Who?) But all I wish to hint at with this story of the kind person is something I could so far vaguely feel but not entirely grasp: how what drives our growth may only shift, not diminish, the challenges we’re facing. One more reason for why philosophy is so, fruscinating.

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Jens Oliver Meiert, photo of September 22, 2018.

Jens Oliver Meiert is a developer and author (sum.cumo, W3C, O’Reilly). He plays with philosophy, art, and adventure. Here on he shares and generalizes and exaggerates some of his thoughts and experiences.

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