The Dilemma of the Kind Person

Published on July 4, 2016 (↻ February 5, 2024), filed under (RSS feed for all categories).

Imagine a fine human being who has a laudable goal. She wants to become a genuinely, cordially, most truly kind person. So she works on her objective, looks into and explores herself, discusses and brainstorms with others, learns from experts, reads and studies, carefully monitors her progress, until one day, after years of effort, she is such a phenomenally kind person that she has, unknowingly but matter-of-factly, become the kindest person in the whole world.

Unfortunately, then, with her wonderful development comes a big surprise: Our heroine finds that everyone, every single person, has somehow become rude. With her growing kinder and kinder, everyone else, in comparison, turned ruder and ruder. The dream she fulfilled of growing herself into a beautifully kind person has also manifested as a nightmare.

❧ Yet what has happened, mustn’t there be more to this—after all, our kind friend has surely not learned for naught? (And, most likely, someone must have brought this dilemma up before? Who?) But all I wish to hint at with this story of the kind person is something I could so far vaguely feel but not entirely grasp: how what drives our growth may only shift, not diminish, the challenges we’re facing. One more reason for why philosophy is so, fruscinating.

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About Me

Jens Oliver Meiert, on November 9, 2024.

I’m Jens (long: Jens Oliver Meiert), and I’m a web developer, manager, and author. I’ve worked as a technical lead and engineering manager for small and large enterprises, I’m an occasional contributor to web standards (like HTML, CSS, WCAG), and I write and review books for O’Reilly and Frontend Dogma.

I love trying things, not only in web development and engineering management, but also in other areas like philosophy. Here on meiert.com I share some of my experiences and views. (I value you being critical, interpreting charitably, and giving feedback.)